A virgin is someone who has not had sex. “Losing your virginity” means having sex for the first time.
Historically, this has been interpreted to mean sexual intercourse – that is, a penis-in-vagina type scenario.
However, in this day and age of different sexualities and gender identities, this seems like a pretty narrow definition. Maybe the kind of sex you like doesn’t involve any penises. Or maybe there are only penises and no vaginas.
Is it meaningful then to label someone based on whether they have participated in this one specific act? Does putting a penis in your vagina (or vice versa) magically transform you into a different category of person?
In short, we don’t think so.
So, our advice is this: don’t get hung up on this idea. Do what feels right to you, when you feel ready, with someone you want to.